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Steph W asked:


I live with my family and it is quiet a big family sharing a house with 10 brothers and sisters ! My elder sister left home and moved out with her boyfriend and my niece, Early last year my sisters boyfriend abused me my mum and dad new and they werent happy about it but yet in february without my consent he was allowed back into the house i have to see him almost everyday and it hurt me so much that my family could have let such a evil person back in. My sister never believed that he had done this to me even though i had the marks to prove it. Also because my sister got pregnant at 16 my mum thinks i will do the same i cant even go out without my mum accusing me of sleeping around i am still a virgin and am only 14 but she thinks so much less of me. She cares about my brothers boxing and doesnt have a care in the world about my education or me at all. I am sick of them all and dont no what to do about it could anyone help ?
I live in the UK , lincoln
I am too shy and affraid to co counciling i wish i could have a but more confidence in order to be able to do so but i cant find it in me. I keep my emotions locked in and a few days ago for the first time i cried in school and i was so mad was shaking and everythin i got so many close friends worried about me and i got home and acted normall i dont no what is happening to me but i have been getting really upset lately . Thankss Everyone.

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6 Responses to “My family dont have a care in the world about me but do my siblings ?”

1. aligator232355 Says:
   January 24th, 2011 at 10:58 pm

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   Thats a tough one steph i’m so sorry to hear about that! I would suggest talking to your mom about her accusations. Tell her you aren’t your sister and you will never make the mistakes she has made, you have learned from them. Also tell her how much it hurts you that her and your father don’t seem to care about you. She might be resistant at first and get angry, but even if she does, she will hear you. I suggest being as honest as you can be and please do what you can to steer clear of her boyfriend! If there is any chance of it happening again you should try to see if perhaps a family member you trust outside of your immediate family would let you live with them? Let me know if you need to talk!

2. Precious Gem Says:
   January 25th, 2011 at 6:19 pm

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   Wow! I really feel sorry for you. Talk with your school counselor and tell him/her everything you have said here.
   Ask for protection from sister’s boyfriend and from your
   parents. In doing so you may be removed from your home.
   Is it possible you can live with your older sister? Good luck
   Steph. If that bum of a boyfriend touches you again then
   call the police.

3. gurl Says:
   January 25th, 2011 at 10:37 pm

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   hey…if your family like that,just ignore them. .do only your business. .you are a student right? you need to concerntrate on it, dont do something that can affect your study.about that boy, just ignore him.anything happen you need to avoid him.

4. gismo Says:
   January 27th, 2011 at 4:59 pm

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   Oh sweetie, I am so sorry about what has happened to you and that you cannot get anybody to validate your feelings. You are so young that your options are rather limited. I highly doubt you will get your mother to understand you at this point. What I would do though, cause you desperately need someone to hear you and to work on your issues with you, I would talk to the counselor at school or if you want some anonymity for now perhaps this web site below can start you in the right direction. I don’t even know which country you live in, I am hoping it is the States or UK cause this site basically has links for those two countries. Sweetie, please talk to someone, you need help to work this through, and even if you don’t have your family helping you for their own twisted reasons don’t condemn yourself, this will continue to eat away at you till you get yourself strong enough to confront it and your family’s inadequacy, and unfortunately you are to young to remove yourself from the present environment. Start with the site below and post again if you need more help resourcing.

5. 21first time mum Says:
   January 28th, 2011 at 3:24 pm

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   thats horrible do u have any relatives or friends you could stay with, im sorry about that

6. advice guru and mom Says:
   January 31st, 2011 at 11:26 am

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   as a nurse mother wife I am going to tell you ask your mom and dad to take you to counseling I now you are saying I do not need counseling… but it is great for the one reason that you have someone who is impartial to go to once a week and complain and talk about crap that is bugging you and they actually listen and try to help you through it all.. they do not judge you they have heard it all throughout their careers. so nothing you say is going to shock them…it is hard being part of a big family because even though there is so many people and when you want someone to play outside with there is someone there when you need mom and dad attention there are 9 other kids trying to get it too. so most of it tends to go to the younger ones and you are left to fend for yourself. I would suggest walking in the room where your parents are and simply saying I want to go to counseling…and when they say why… simply say because I need someone who will listen to me and help me through problems I will be facing as a teenager like boys, friends and my future…tell your mom you are not your sister you are not going to get pregnant..you are 14 and have no desire to be a teen mom…

   if anything this will make them think that maybe they have been neglecting you by thinking you are older and need them less when you actually need their love and guidance more as you enter high school and puberty and think about your future.